# "The Wife" - The person in charge in many smart homes **URL:** \ **Category:** Off-Topic\ **Tags:** the-wife\ **Created:** [January 25, 2025, 12:06pm UTC](https://community.homey.app/t/the-wife-the-person-in-charge-in-many-smart-homes/128811 "2025-01-25T12:06:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Peter\_Kawa](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/user_avatar/community.homey.app/peter_kawa/32/173848_2.png) [@Peter\_Kawa](https://community.homey.app/u/Peter_Kawa)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2025, 12:06pm UTC](https://community.homey.app/t/the-wife-the-person-in-charge-in-many-smart-homes/128811/1 "2025-01-25T12:06:49Z")
“_ **… or it’s the end of my smart home - according to my wife** _” Nothing personal, but how many posts I’ve read about guys desperately trying to emphasize the “emergency situation”, because _ **the wife** _ will take appropriate actions when the malfunctions don’t get fixed (read: get a divorce, or toss everything out the window). It’s just too funny to read about as outsider 🤣 ---
**Author:** ![Undertaker](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/user_avatar/community.homey.app/undertaker/32/53278_2.png) [@Undertaker](https://community.homey.app/u/Undertaker)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2025, 12:14pm UTC](https://community.homey.app/t/the-wife-the-person-in-charge-in-many-smart-homes/128811/2 "2025-01-25T12:14:38Z")
![laurel-and](https://us1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/uploads/athom/original/3X/8/e/8e2bc2b060c5faf4065e08dc75943b47fea0cb33.gif) ![oliver-hardy-stan-laurel](https://us1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/uploads/athom/original/3X/5/7/571d9850de9262751dd0fe274e7d7bfce6ab8a10.gif) 👍 ---
**Author:** ![Michael](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/user_avatar/community.homey.app/michael/32/110520_2.png) [@Michael](https://community.homey.app/u/Michael)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2025, 5:52pm UTC](https://community.homey.app/t/the-wife-the-person-in-charge-in-many-smart-homes/128811/3 "2025-01-25T17:52:52Z")
Today my wife had problems with the wifi (automatically my fault) after a lot of puzzling it seems Apple had some problems with the “blocking ip tracking” feature from icloud+ but it took a while to figure it out. My wife wouldn’t throw me or the stuff out the window or file a divorce (atleast not for this) but when something stops working it’s always “What did you do this time?” … and i think she doesn’t believe me when i say i didn’t do anything… 😅 ---
**Author:** ![DaneedeKruyff](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/user_avatar/community.homey.app/daneedekruyff/32/964_2.png) [@DaneedeKruyff](https://community.homey.app/u/DaneedeKruyff)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2025, 6:01pm UTC](https://community.homey.app/t/the-wife-the-person-in-charge-in-many-smart-homes/128811/4 "2025-01-25T18:01:10Z")
How many of you will immediately look at their wifes when there’s a glitch on the Television? Or am I the only one not in control of the remote? 😂 🤣 ---
**Author:** ![Rogier\_Verheugen](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/user_avatar/community.homey.app/rogier_verheugen/32/77406_2.png) [@Rogier\_Verheugen](https://community.homey.app/u/Rogier_Verheugen)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2025, 6:53pm UTC](https://community.homey.app/t/the-wife-the-person-in-charge-in-many-smart-homes/128811/5 "2025-01-25T18:53:11Z")
I’am spending a lot of time abroad for work. Because of that I made some ‘start flow’ buttons and made them favourite on my wifes phone in case something isn’t working. She can restart the Homey and Netgear router when necessary. ![1000008532](https://us1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/uploads/athom/original/3X/e/a/ea7ae524b6dcac9d358e4cb4ba572749badefd6d.jpeg) ---
**Author:** ![Mike1233](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/user_avatar/community.homey.app/mike1233/32/20991_2.png) [@Mike1233](https://community.homey.app/u/Mike1233)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2025, 7:55pm UTC](https://community.homey.app/t/the-wife-the-person-in-charge-in-many-smart-homes/128811/6 "2025-01-25T19:55:19Z")
> [@Michael](#): > > when something stops working it’s always “What did you do this time?” … and i think she doesn’t believe me when i say i didn’t do anything… 😅 This is something that i recognize. 😉 When she is watching tv and something goes wrong with the broadcast and the screen is black, she sometimes sends a WhatsApp to ask if I am doing something with the tv. 😂 ---
**Author:** ![Autogedrocht](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/user_avatar/community.homey.app/autogedrocht/32/103824_2.png) [@Autogedrocht](https://community.homey.app/u/Autogedrocht)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2025, 12:31am UTC](https://community.homey.app/t/the-wife-the-person-in-charge-in-many-smart-homes/128811/7 "2025-01-27T00:31:33Z")
We are just trying to make everything bulletproof, and we use our wives as laboratory animals 😅 ---
**Author:** ![deejayreissue](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/user_avatar/community.homey.app/deejayreissue/32/81912_2.png) [@deejayreissue](https://community.homey.app/u/deejayreissue)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2025, 6:09pm UTC](https://community.homey.app/t/the-wife-the-person-in-charge-in-many-smart-homes/128811/8 "2025-01-28T18:09:20Z")
I think there’s a good proportion of guys who bring it upon themselves by ordering and installing this stuff without talking through as a couple, if it’s even a necessary purchase. ---
**Author:** ![JohanP](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/user_avatar/community.homey.app/johanp/32/119002_2.png) [@JohanP](https://community.homey.app/u/JohanP)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2025, 7:43pm UTC](https://community.homey.app/t/the-wife-the-person-in-charge-in-many-smart-homes/128811/9 "2025-01-28T19:43:08Z")
Maybe ‘talking through’ ends up in ‘why’ and ‘is it really necessary’ ? Arguments you never hear when shoes or dresses are bought ? 😏🤣 Every time I’m stripping wires I just get ‘Warn me if you’re gonna cut the power. Even if it’s unintentionally’ 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Peter\_Kawa](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/user_avatar/community.homey.app/peter_kawa/32/173848_2.png) [@Peter\_Kawa](https://community.homey.app/u/Peter_Kawa)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2025, 8:58pm UTC](https://community.homey.app/t/the-wife-the-person-in-charge-in-many-smart-homes/128811/10 "2025-05-20T20:58:09Z")
Another gem ☺ > my family is becoming frustrated with the ongoing “project,” and the WAF (Wife Acceptance Factor) is rapidly declining. ---
**Author:** ![deejayreissue](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/user_avatar/community.homey.app/deejayreissue/32/81912_2.png) [@deejayreissue](https://community.homey.app/u/deejayreissue)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2025, 12:45pm UTC](https://community.homey.app/t/the-wife-the-person-in-charge-in-many-smart-homes/128811/11 "2025-08-14T12:45:04Z")
I think this is a pretty big false equivalence which doesn’t affect your life one iota; whereas smart home purchases that go very wrong when installed, affect every person in the household. ---
**Author:** ![Mark\_GDR](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/user_avatar/community.homey.app/mark_gdr/32/121100_2.png) [@Mark\_GDR](https://community.homey.app/u/Mark_GDR)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2025, 6:45am UTC](https://community.homey.app/t/the-wife-the-person-in-charge-in-many-smart-homes/128811/12 "2025-09-20T06:45:38Z")
Haha, I know exactly what you mean. It’s funny how the “smart home boss” is almost always the wife in these stories—one glitch and the whole system is on trial. Makes me double-check my own setup before anyone notices something’s off! ---
**Author:** ![JohanP](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/user_avatar/community.homey.app/johanp/32/119002_2.png) [@JohanP](https://community.homey.app/u/JohanP)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2025, 2:55pm UTC](https://community.homey.app/t/the-wife-the-person-in-charge-in-many-smart-homes/128811/13 "2025-11-28T14:55:43Z")
Ok, app. one year since I have my toy..I mean Home Automation we went from : - “Why would we want the gardenlights and fountain to automaticly switch on and off ?” to : -“Why didn’t the gardenlights automaticly turn on this evening ??” 😂 ---
**Author:** ![Mike1233](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/user_avatar/community.homey.app/mike1233/32/20991_2.png) [@Mike1233](https://community.homey.app/u/Mike1233)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2025, 7:41pm UTC](https://community.homey.app/t/the-wife-the-person-in-charge-in-many-smart-homes/128811/14 "2025-11-28T19:41:57Z")
And from, “why do we need the screen and the sunshade go automatically" to, i get a phone call from my wife, “can you close the screens and sunshade, the remote is in the kitchen and i am on the sofa in the living room, i am busy". Ps. It is about 6 meter away. ---
**Author:** ![Packo1BR](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex025/user_avatar/community.homey.app/packo1br/32/136429_2.png) [@Packo1BR](https://community.homey.app/u/Packo1BR)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2025, 2:58pm UTC](https://community.homey.app/t/the-wife-the-person-in-charge-in-many-smart-homes/128811/15 "2025-12-09T14:58:07Z")
I don’t have the Wife’s Satisfaction Factor, but since the pandemic I returned my condo and went back to mom’s to help with my aging (98 yo and counting) grandma. Since I’ve already had lots of smart devices they move in with me, initialy to my annex unity, and slowly take over the main house. The turning point was when I bought some Ikea Rodret controls, set up some flows to turn of the TV and lights of the living room and hallways to my grandma’s room and gave it to mom. She went from “Why you bother to buy this junk just to be lazy” to “This control is Amazing, I don’t need to double check if everything is off before going to bed”. Now, I’m moving to a new condo, and my Mother and grandma to her’s new Appartment she asked me to set all the automations we have in the common areas in the new home before she moves.